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DistanceKeeping Love Alive During Deployment

Tips for keeping your relationship smokin’ hot

by Teresa Sullivan 

 

Conveying love long-distance can be fun, stimulating and downright exciting for a couple.  The mind is a powerful aphrodisiac, and even though the person you love is far away, you can still give him heart palpitations at the mere thought of you. 

EMPLOY ALL FIVE SENSES

Keep those heartthrobs beating by exciting all of his senses.  Send eye candy—pictures of you doing ordinary things that he misses the most, like shots of you cooking, bathing the kids or washing the car.  Then get daring.  Go for a professional photo shoot.  Maybe even try some sexy poses in scanty clothes.  Your spouse will love it, and the adventure will rouse your spirits as well. 

You may miss each other’s touch, but he’ll love getting his hands on a discreetly labeled “open in private” piece of your favorite lingerie, scented with a power boost of your special perfume.  It will send his heart a flutter, especially with a note attached that says, “Can’t wait to model this one in person.”  Or, send a lingerie catalog and ask him to pick the perfect outfit for your reunion. 

LEAVE MULTIPLE REMINDERS

Don’t let your spouse forget for a minute that you are thinking of him.  Notes in his duffel bag are a must.  Romance feeds on surprise, and something as simple as a Post-it note that says “I love your smile” on a new tube of toothpaste, or one that reads, “Wish I could keep you warm” inside a sock will tickle his heart (and toes.)   Litter your loved one’s belongings with them. Let him discover one month after he’s away.

Keeping the spark alive can be a joyful, even lustful, endeavor that can strengthen a relationship and heighten the joy of your reunion.  It takes time, but your spouse will love you for the effort.

OHER IDEAS FOR KEEPING THE HOME FIRES HOT:

1. Transfer your picture to a pillowcase.  Attach a note that says, “Let’s spend the night together.”

2. Buy a talking frame in an electronics store.  Send your picture and a happy message:  “Hey handsome, can’t wait to squeeze you.”  He’ll love the sight and sound of you.

3. Make your own newsletter.  Cut and paste local sports stories, horoscopes, comics,whatever floats his boat.  Write articles and add pictures about your epic love story.  The news will never have looked so good to him.

4. Burn your own CD with you as the DJ.  Personally dedicate each hand-picked song to him.  Decorate the cover with words and pictures that have special significance to just you two.

5. Keep the mystery alive. Glue a big picture of yourself to a jigsaw puzzle and cut it out in the shape of the pieces. Or have one made on a photo Web site. Send him a piece or two each day. He’ll love the anticipation of putting you all together!



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cryonchick11/14/2007 6:51:38 AM
I love this article, as a Navy family that has been apart for just over 1 year this article rings true. We all know the things that help us cope from day to day but more often than not it is the bond that is tested but receives the least attention. It needs to be nurtured as well. I have learnt to never hold back on the good but always hold back on the bad. Usually the bad is nothing more than slight issue once it is given time.
escosgirl11/15/2007 5:21:43 PM
Great article for those of us at home. I always appreciate new ideas! Some ideas for our deployed spouses would also be helpful. This would allow for the conveying of long-distance love to flow both ways.
The Big G11/19/2007 9:51:00 AM
This is such an awesome article! I actually have tried some of these things and have taken it a bit further. I've sent couple coupons to redeem when he gets home which included a free backrub and some other nifty stuff...he really liked this. I've also sent him videos and "For your eyes only" pics of me in sexy lingerie. I feel that this is really keeping the love alive and recommend it to any spouse.
RSmith6/30/2008 4:30:50 AM
Wow, I tried to get my wife to understand this sort of stuff keeps us men happy. All I got were excuses she was to busy with the two boys and tired at the end of the day. Love the article and I hope my wife will read this. Signed, Forgotten most of this tour

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