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girl-on-cell-phoneBeing an Immigrant

 by Anita Tedaldi 

This week I tried to sign up my children for swimming lessons. When I went into the pool, I was handed forms to fill out.

There was the usual, name, age, address, telephone number, followed by four identical spaces for each of the children’s biographical information with a puzzling question: is the child a US citizen?

I was surprised by the fact that someone would ask this question for swimming lessons. This wasn’t a public pool or a place where kids received funding or free classes, or a government or state run program where this information would be pertinent. No, this was a private swimming club, so I politely asked this lady why they were interested in the children’s citizenship.          

            Almost immediately, the owner of the aquatic center got very defensive and told me that she had every right to put the question on the form, and that people were way too politically correct and sensitive about these things. 

Well, maybe she had a point.  Actually two points. Whether we agree with an issue or not, people are more sensitive about race, gender, sexual orientation. More importantly, she is the owner of the establishment and can pretty much do whatever she wants to, with some limitations.

But, I became irritated when the owner explained that this question was crucial in keeping the clientele of her establishment up to a certain level, and knowingly looked at me, adding, “Do you know what I mean?”

I knew what she meant but refused to acknowledge it, so I asked, if non US citizens could take swimming lessons.

To my shock she responded, “It depends”.

On what? The nation the immigrant actually comes from?

I laughed because I wasn’t sure how to express my annoyance, and before I could say anything else this lady told me that I had no idea what immigrants are doing to this country and how they are destroying and depleting “our” resources, and that she couldn’t and wouldn’t allow certain people to infiltrate her club.

I informed her that even though I am a US citizen, I am an immigrant myself and wouldn’t be infiltrating her pool.

As I left, I saw the club had several signs expressing support for the military and discounts for military families. I wondered if the fact that I was part of the group she hated and she supposedly loved at the same time would make her re-examine her beliefs. Probably not.

I didn’t take this woman’s ranting personally, but I realized how difficult it is to change our minds when we define a person based on a stereotype. 

My children didn’t get their swimming lessons, but they did learn that I am a “immigrant” and that the lady at the pool doesn’t like “immigrants." They concluded that it’s better to look for another pool, one that has slides, waterfalls and giant Disney characters. 


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User comments:

joss1/7/2009 3:44:29 PM
I think you handled that really well. Her behavior is appalling and you were a great role model for your kids.
ajh2/11/2009 7:04:47 PM
I agree. As a daughter of immigrants, her behavior was appalling and inappropriate. You did a good job in being a role model for your children.
maddy_g4/27/2009 10:54:08 PM
People these days! I'm an immigrant but I look like a "white American" and I'm married to a Mexican so people always think he's the immigrant even though he was born here. Just goes to show how people categorize. I hate it when forms ask questions like that, why does it matter so much? Just because someone is a citizen doesn't mean they don't work hard. Also Americans should feel proud that people want to immigrate to their country, it shows the country has a lot to offer and is a great place!
maddy_g4/27/2009 10:55:31 PM
I was suppose to write "isn't a citizen"
kym16/8/2009 8:37:23 PM
good job . i would of lost my cool. but you did good. and im an immigrant but look white and i would have been very upset if she would have said that to me.
dragensong1/13/2010 4:59:36 PM
i'm not crazy about the anti-immigrant bends that some people go on. especially when they assume some is or isn't based on how they look or sound. My dad is an immigrant, just became a US citizen after being here over 30yrs. He's long lost his accent (except for a few words) so nobody even thinks to ask him the question. I usually end up on the minority side of a debate, not b/c of my dad but b/c its it is the right thing to do. I think its one thing to be against people coming in the 'wrong' way but to be against everyone coming in is a tad hypocritical towards our ancestors.
5/20/2010 2:40:32 PM
I am shocked and appalled at this woman's attitude, but it is so common. I'm an immigrant too, so I have also faced discrimination. I'm from the UK, but I have dark hair and an olive complexion (not your stereotypical blonde, blue-eyed Brit) and I know people racially profile me all the time, imagining I am from a different country. Then when I open my mouth and speak, they are surprised to hear a British accent. You handled the situation really well, Anita. I wouldn't want to join this lady's swimming club either! I'm sure you taught your children a valuable lesson in the calm, mature way you handled this woman's bitterness and hatred, which is what her behaviour really amount to. Sophie
7/20/2010 12:24:56 PM
This is what I call uneducated and ignorant. The USA and Canada are the 2 main countries which were created and established by immigrants. Ironically, unless she was a Native American, she too comes from an immigrant family. I think she is a prime example how people buy into the fear mongering without looking deeper into the subject. Pathetic
7/20/2010 12:27:10 PM
I should also add that I am too a new immigrant, but as I am white with no accent, people will put their biased gaurd down around me and shove their foot in their mouth often about this subject. If they only knew how ridiculous they sounded
7/20/2010 12:27:51 PM
Wow. That womans behavior was disgusting but it doen't surprise me at all. Her thinking is so backwards it's almost funny. I wonder when her ancestors immigrated here? Bet she ever thought of that!

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