Jamie Novak, author of 1,000 Best Quick and Easy Organizing Secrets, says the first step in creating an effective organizational system in your new home is knowing what isn’t working in your current home.

You may not want them to visit when your soldier gets home or to call every time they watch the news to see who got hurt. Ideally, your spouse will set the boundaries with his parents, said Jay Lappin, a licensed clinical social worker.

Sleeping in a bed with your spouse again after a deployment is a totally different subject than sex. If you’re like me, you had to acquire some bizarre sleeping rituals to get some rest at night during the months of separation.