7 Rules for His Mom at Homecoming
How to set boundaries for the MIL reunion visit
by Michelle Cuthrell
If your mother-in-law keeps asking when she can fly in for the homecoming, our combat-tested military spouses have some relationship-saving advice to prevent a MIL disaster. Here are seven topics to discuss before the big day:
- Does the MIL get to physically pick up the Soldier from post or does she just get to be at the house when you arrive home as a family?
- Who gets to hug and kiss the Soldier first?
- Where will the MIL stay during the visit? How will you ensure that you have plenty of space for physical intimacy with your Soldier
- How long is appropriate for MIL to stay in the area?
- How will you both get alone time with your Soldier? (Can one babysit while the other enjoys a date? Who gets to go first?)
- What are your Soldier’s needs during this reintegration period? How can you both respect them?
- What are both of your needs during this reintegration period? How can you make sure you accommodate one another?